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Who do we blame for our obstacles. Impermanence, interdependence, emptiness.

There is no supernatural power creating that obstacle. No one external to you that you have to please so they will give you luck. Take the path of Compromising with people you view as creating obstacles.

If you remove one or two causes the obstacle will become weaker.

Emotional part is totally in our hand – so take those out which will enable you to tackle obstacles. If you have a rigid mind, it just cracks. If your mind is flexible like bamboo, you can take that shock.

How to clear is you have to do your job not to make it an obstacle.

Relying on three jewels to help you as you clear your obstacles.

Can pray to Guru Rinpoche asking for help clearing outer, inner, and secret obstacles.

Remembering Buddhas has power to clear your karma, which is root of obstacles. Praying to Buddhas in eastern direction so reach destination without obstacle. So on awakening remember Buddha and think you’ll have a nice day. Like being in love with someone. What we do is so little and what we expect is so great.

Buddhas smile at us whether we smile back or not. Purpose of getting enlightened is for themselves and all sentient beings to be worry-free. Unconditional devotion, love, compassion. No matter what happens.

Ego makes us master of all the ghosts.

Evil ideas influenced by others. Outer obstacle which is easier to overcome compared to inner and secret.

Inner obstacle is our inner elements causing us to get sick.

Can be cleared through proper conduct. Eating habits and have healthy body. Spiritual healing within us also.

Medicine Buddha does only spiritual detoxification.

Secret obstacle is emotion. Ego clinging is root of our emotions. Who brought us in samsara is our ego. It is creator of our secret obstacle, master mind of all obstacles. Egos want everything for ourselves.if someone goes against you have resentment or aversion.

When ego gets what it wants THAT is a distraction. We don’t feel it is a distraction. But, like time passed on iPhone, you don’t realize until too late.

Likes and dislikes. Things that lead to jealousy. 

Deep down we believe “I” exists. There is a base that makes us believe there is an “I” because we have this body, on the gross level. We don’t combine with mind much. We think of others physical existence. Most of us think if body as “I”.

We think characteristics of “I” as there is a permanence, independent, autonomous. 

Every mistake we make is because of assumptions.

We assume “I” exists and not be able to let go. That is distorted view.

The assumption and wanting to evolve is based on ego clinging. We think permanent because we don’t think we are changing.

Over time our body changes. We are fat, thin, sick, healthy.

Over time our likes and dislikes change.

If we can find anything permanent we can say there is an “I” but there is not. Final conclusion is you do not exist at all.

If you just remain happy, thinking “I” doesn’t exist, cures all. Emptiness is one cure for all.

We are all in one sense living in assumption. 

How we can work with our issues is to be more practical. We can work with this by seeing our solutions in more practical way. Having your ego too and then find a solution.

Thinking of ego with or without philosophical training. Without, it is like dog at the table. Another system influenced by culture, philosophy, training etc.

If no self what becomes enlightened? A chain of consciousness moving from lifetime to lifetime, body to body. Like beads on a mala. 

I didn’t think I’d get much out of this, but did.

Format is questions from Facebook, Twitter and submitted before.

Giving to your audience beyond the book you’ve written. Being famous and having people come up to you and ask advice.

Like each of our keys has a story. Necklace she is wearing represents unzipping, opening up. 

Writer creates words, but minute we release them, they belong to the reader.

“How wild it was to let it be.” Is now tattooed. No one has it tattooed because of writer, it is because of them. 

“Write like a motherfucker.”

Humility sometimes gets misinterpreted as weakness, so people don’t want to seem humble. [My takeaway: this is at root of having a learning approach.]

Sense of surrender and acceptance.

Humility, acceptance and surrender giving us a kind of power.

[Questions are from a different context so feel a tad disconnected.]

Shame, guilt and procrastination. Binge writing. Writer’s block. 

Two crappy pages per day technique.

Cathartic nature of writing because you empathize with your tormentor as you have to ask why.

Writing prompts. Talisman prompt is an object that has accumulated meaning.

[People expect Ferriss to be more about crazy experimentation, not so much emotional–so this is kind of breaking that.]

“What makes me angry” as a prompt.

Rationally we know we can die, but not in our bones. Dont take our lives for granted. Keeping mortality at a distance versus keeping it as a point on a daily basis. Gives her a greater sense of consequence.

“Good-bye” means “God Be With You” — Ferriss became more aware of death.

Interesting: Tim Ferriss hyper-focused on technique. On how someone rolls things out in their lives.

She used to write “dear sugar” column.

Lists as a way to SEE not just feel your feels. Like post-it’s. What you want, fear, desire.

Ferriss does a worst case list. How can I mitigate.

One of scariest things is doing what we know we should do. Giving ourselves permission. Doing what you want to do is a kind of generosity.

Theory of putting O2 mask on first in the plane. 

Most of us get wisdom from a wide range of sources. Help on saying “No” — everyone has something to tell about it. Not about right or wrong, it’s about illumination, to get me to think in a way I have not thought before.

Most important is to feel not alone.

Pacific Crest Trail. Long hikes when you suffer and make it. Not going to be fun all the time. Retrospective fun. 

Ferriss schedules prospective enjoyment–give six months to look forward to trip.

Citizen, Claudia Rankin

Mary Oliver poet

Alice Munroe
Many definitions of success. Way we are and act in world is more a mark of success. Set intentions and followed through. When done that feels successful.

She’s talking about decluttering.

Boot box. Is her purchase under $100

Second time heard fail fast. Difference between failure and being sloppy. Craftsmanship. Know what you are doing. People haven’t done their work. Old school about having done the work.

Do multiple revisions to yourself.

Surrender to your own mediocrity. It is an American thing. But in the sense of humility, but the drive to be so good might stop you from doing it.

Your dreams can get in the way of what you need to do.

Awesome close talking about Oprah being open, like the zipper necklace.

Darkest Teacher writer’s prop. A person in your life who taught you something you don’t want to know about our selves. She wrote about her father. When you view them as a teacher changes view.

People spending billions on engagement and no result.

Wegman’s, Soul Cycle: why they succeed on engagement is that they are obsessively concerned with what’s good for their people. It’s a context, decision filter about what they do.

“I want you to be emotionally engaged so we can get the best of your discretionary effort.”

Discovery 2: the framework – the human impntelligence quotient.

Amy Edmondson and psychological safety – interpersonal risk taking. High HQ companies.

• Healthy ecosystem
• Circle of safety: Higher safety reported errors more than low ones — because nurses didn’t feel safe. People drop their guard and do things bigger than themselves.
• Emotional weather: Everyone influences so give people the tools to improve weather.
• Human potentuial
• Embolden potential
• High impact

Wegmans sends employees abroad for training. They do college scholarships. 

Culture: Values, beliefs, behaviors

Invisible expectations. Top down and bottom up. Culture like a sound wave in an echo chamber.

Discovery 3: the vibration of the leadership sets the emotional tone for what’s get reflected back.

Soul Cycle leaders showed they could send out positive even under stress.

Open loop system — physically transmitted back and forth. The CEO is the emotional center. Can’t delegate culture.

Sacrifice is it has to start at senior leadership. Whole Foods CEO worked on himself to help company grow.

Don’t buy in. Embody the culture.

Work brain vs personal brain.

Silo’d and guarded vs open and unified.

Put your human intelligence to work by embedding in your team. Use concentric rings. 

Ask: are team members empowered and able to have real conversations. Are they inspired? Help each other learn deeply and meaningful.

Go to work on your own human intelligence.

Scott Wallace: Treatment isn’t the goal it’s care. We are trying to get health. The purpose of health care is health.

It’s a path to getting to something you want. Only as much as I need and to be as little as possible. You are not on a plane to be on the plane. You just want to get on vacation. That’s healthcare. You want to get to a place of better health.

Healthcare is scary.

Elizabeth Teisberg: Too much focus on cost reduction.

SW: Most of negotiations are about price.

Value is created between clinicians and patients.

Hospitals don’t create value.

ET: Focus on outcomes changes conversation. Taking about outcomes DURING care. Capability, Comfort and Calm. Allows clinicians to focus on why they came to healthcare in first place: to help people heal.

SW: Patients have to manage scenarios like this:

Patients that can’t figure out are called “non-compliant.”

SW: Team approach to solving problems.

ET: 90% of patients in migraine example had a huge improvement.

Better outcomes reduce costs.

How do you know what matters to patients? you have to ask them.

SW: Experience groups with people with same medical circumstances. Learned a lot that runs COUNTER to the way “healthcare” thinks about it.

ET: Measure the right things. Example is breast reconstruction. Doctors thought LOOK right versus FEEL right. A woman said “why would I want to tattoo a nipple on an Idaho potato.” Question should be look, yes, but also how it feels. And no one knew that.

SW: What to measure? Mortality sure – but other comfort and capability issues are important.

ET: Normally we ask “how were WE?” in post-care surveys. We need to ask “How are you?”

SW: Too few people want to be great.

We don’t ask questions about us, we ask questions about you. We have conversations about how these patients are experiencing care.

ET: Great healthcare should not be local. Science is not.