Thoughts:
Jean gave an interesting presentation that made me rethink some of the presentations I’ve read by Pete Behrens about an agile culture. Kind of gives me hope that you can start where you are and don’t have to hope a company be collaborative in culture for agile to have any chance. What it is not. Was very Interested in hearing collaboration as a conflict mode. Never thought of collaboration that way.
Also the idea that a collaborative approach might not always work and might depend on context. This directly affects influencing culture at a company, if you think of the William Schneider model (command, cultivative, competent or collaborative traits). Tempting to ask “What if a command approach works better in a circumstance?” While it is a temptation to ask, the two extremes were debate/competitive and dialogue/ collaborative. Wondering if there is a parallel for other two.
We really have to use skillful means, and find it gets back to the awareness we talked about earlier in the day.
Notes:
Purpose.nGetting the things we want: a good death and good relationships.
Looking how people recover character. Coming to greater consciousness. Jack McKenna.
Conflict can also be known as problem-solving. Sometimes people think they are in conflict, but they agree and just don’t see it.
Collaboration is a conflict mode.
Thomas-Kilmann conflict model.
So sometimes being collaborative will not work.
Kilmann online trading very good.
The why we want to be in collaborative to be in greater consciousness.
Portland uses agile even in sewage system management.
Heightening conscious means awareness, knowledge of others.
Sometimes people are so much in their head they forget they have a self and that others do.
Sometimes people go to mediation NOT to learn.
Exercise.
Intentionally choose conflict mode.
Attitude overall is how I am.
Dialogue leaves you curious and open. Debate leaves you judging.
Debate is the court room. You talk more than listen. Reacting is going in for the kill. Interrogation. If you ask questions, it is me trying to trip you up.
(Getting your baggage out on table might dissipate it).
If someone comes at you with what they think you are about, their opinion about what you are saying, elicit more from them. Find out what they are saying.
Have team break into pairs and discuss what’s in the image, what the sculpture is about.
People don’t see their affect on people. They don’t realize how strong they are in the room. Working with them, have to bring the right approach
Not about empowering people. It’s about stopping dis-empowering them.
Agile had no need for genuflecting. Recognizes all are part of the solution.
(Statue is the torch bearers, older generation passing knowledge to older generation.)
Brought in principle of mutual causality. That we become different people together?
Pair programming is dialogue
Refactoring is releasing the entity from the void.
Why important? Software dev is a back door to how the world works. So creating it consciously helps world be a better place.
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